“How many children do you have?”
“Just the two boys?”
“6 & 3? Must be time for another!”
These questions are always well intentioned, but I have no idea how to answer.
If I say I just have the two, I feel like I am not honoring my daughter. Though we never got to know her, she is still a part of our family.
And yet, if I mention her, I feel like I’m begging for sympathy. And I’m often met with awkward silences or piteous looks.
How do I answer? What do I say?
I don’t have the answers yet, but in time, hopefully it will be clear. Hopefully there is a way to include my daughter in my family count without creating an awkward situation.